The path divisions

Hey all, 

I know it's been a while... I've had a lot of things going on lately, been a little too busy to stop and process...

Now it's all winding down coming up to the merry season, I'm finding myself able to take a moment and reflect. 

I got to thinking about life and the circumstances I've found myself in... 

most of the time I'm a people watcher... I observe people, their behaviors, their mannerisms the subtleties most people seem to miss or not realize that I notice, even if they don't notice it themselves.

A slight change in texting mannerisms I notice, facial expressions I notice, change in demeanor I notice... sounds creepy right? 😂😂 it takes spending a whole lot of time with someone for me to really get an in-depth sense of the essence of a person to fully notice these things. In the beginning, it's a whole series of questions and observations to equate the changes in a person if/when they happen, definitely wouldn't be able to do that with a total stranger, but I do notice peculiarities, things I've never seen before or witnessed far too often.

One constant I've observed in society and those around me is that people oft search for things be it to fill the holes they find in themselves, people to fill the loneliness, things to fill the empty hands and living spaces. 

I've noticed, humanity is not a species that thrives on segregation and exclusion. 

There is a sense of fulfillment in community and togetherness, so much so that people tend to lose themselves when they do discover that they have time alone... especially in this day and age of technology and easy fixes.

I know this has been true for me, we get so lost... in our surroundings, our friendships and relationships and the juggling of life activities that we lose parts of ourselves that made us unique and interesting and resort to clinging to the familiarities of the things that aren't necessarily healthy for us in large quantities. 

For example, we throw ourselves into work, or gaming or a relationship and flood our lives with TOXIC pollution... Oft resulting in a dark spiral into an abyss of self-doubt, trying to fill the hole with externalities and wondering why we will never be enough... or when it will be our turn to be happy... Am I right?

What if I told you, that you possess all you need... to save yourself from falling into that abyss??

What? How? ... 

Well. the answer to most questions is love...

Hold on, before you put me into the psych ward. Listen for a second okay? pay attention. 

Have you ever watched the reaction between a nurturing response and one filled with anger and yelling? No? Next time, Observe the reaction of a child: Love vs Anger really watch their expressions and body language (not in a creepy way... figure it a scientific study for your own benefit to self progression and evolution of understanding)

Have you ever tried to train a dog by yelling at the dog or smacking it? No? Watch the difference between positive treat training and negative smack training... (It's not creepy to watch doggos, so you're good on this front 😂😂)

If you have, then you'll understand with depth, what I'm about to explain...

Love, Love yourself enough to send a search party for when you lose yourself because let's be real we've all been lost at some point. When we were children guess who came to find us or panicked when we wandered off or got distracted by the pretty toys? Love yourself enough to be like our mums and search for yourself without hesitation, instead search with  determination.

Love yourself enough to find balance and take the time to look after your body, heart, and soul. 

You, Love and balance are the keys to your freedom... Love yourself enough to say, it's okay dust yourself off, I'm right here... let's keep going... instead of putting yourself down for simply being human... find time to spend with yourself to find out who you are, and really be okay with having some alone time. balance your life enough to fill it with internal commodities because if we're being real... externalities are aides, temporary fixes, moments of fleeting happiness like only a small shovel full of dirt to fill an almost bottomless abyss. 

My greatest and most valuable possession is the knowledge that I am the only person who can make me happy because real infinite happiness comes from within... I loved the words of Will Smith when he spoke of his relationship with Jada his wife, and their connection to happiness (here's the link - click to watch Will Smith's talk about Happiness and Love)

Honestly, progression comes with mistakes and wrong turns sometimes even broken hearts... mistakes are how we learn, remember when we were kids and accidentally touched the stove or something hot, and forever hesitated around the stoves or checked before touching something possibly hot?

I'm gonna do something blasphemous, and take the graduation speech out of twilight. (annnnnnd i've lost some of you already 😂😂😂 jk jk)

“When we were five, they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. Our answers were things like, Astronaut, President or in my case, a Princess. When we were ten, they asked again.  We answered rock star, cowboy or in my case, a gold medalist. But now that we’ve grown up, they wanted a serious answer. Well, how about this - who the hell knows? This isn’t the time to make hard and fast decisions, this is the time to make mistakes. Take the wrong train and get stuck somewhere. Fall in love – a lot. Major in Philosophy because there is no way to make a career out of that. Change your mind and change it again because nothing’s permanent.* So make as many mistakes as you can. That way someday when they asked what we wanna be, we won’t have to guess – we’ll know.”

*I assume you know what she meant by nothing's permanent in regarding to some decisions job-wise etc...but you catch my drift? mistakes = knowledge = progression. Still with me? 

Cool.

I guess the point of all this, is maybe to help those of you who feel lost right now and let you know that you're gonna be okay... 

as long as you realize what I've been talking about... you are the pilot of your own life, the direction your life takes is solely in your hands and the people around you are passengers that come and go, or the flight attendants helping you make the flight as safe and enjoyable as possible but the flight and its direction is up to you and nobody else.

This much I have learned by making a million and 1 mistakes... hopefully, you find your way back to the destination you want and take the time to fuel your plane fix any mechanical difficulties and keep the plane in flight-ready shape. Mostly for you, and sometimes for the passengers who choose to board the flight and the flight attendants who aide the flight and its enjoyability :) 

I think that's enough from me for now, much love

your reformed but forever weird and nerdy,

Miss Hermit